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Writer's pictureRashmi Mishra

Dealing with teenage angst


Credits: Mike Von


Angst is the uneasy feeling of suffering with the deep touch of philosophical dread of dissatisfaction. This can also be insecurity for teens and pre-teens. Angst does include a lot of mood swings and drama. Angst usually brings the below symptoms along:


  • Restlessness

  • Overthinking

  • Constantly worried

  • Disturbed sleep patterns

  • Hard times during concentration


These dissatisfaction usually lies in the Teens when they hear a No from their parents for something that they really wanted a Yes for.


The concern lies in dealing with the kid’s angst. Below are some basic and best ways to handle the child's angst and help them come out stronger.


1. Don’t yell back or raise a hand: It is never a good idea to reciprocate the angst with anger or strict instructions. This usually backfires. Take a deep breath, calm yourself down and recognize their pattern. Notice their words and their actions. Identify their trigger of anger and things that piss them off. These will help you to understand what kind of behavior they possess currently and what they are disturbed about.


2. Listen to them: If you are your kid’s back to lean on, you are already making your way to great parenting. If your teen is anxious or stressed about something and they are telling you, be happy that at least you know what is making them upset. When you listen to your little one while they are irritable towards everything, you generate a friendly appeal to their brain. Hence, they get a sense of security from you being around them, no matter what. After they might discharge their whole complaints or anger, they would welcome your thoughts.


3. Help them to understand their emotion: Angst behavior usually by default includes a sudden change in interest, disturbed sleeping patterns, breaking the rules, hindering the home decorum, consistent change in mood, turbulent behavior and many more. While you sit and discuss all these behaviors and the bad impact those behaviors bring to their positive space might ease things a little. As kids do throw spontaneous reactions while responding to the situations, a discussion about the behavior impact can bring more mindfulness to them while they repeat the pattern.


4. Give them space: I am grown up in a space where privacy and space meant a crime commitment. Yes. When you know that your child is having a tough time while responding to a particular situation peacefully, rather than instructing them about the so-called protocols, let them drop their baggage of emotions. Let them cry at their loudest. Let them sleep over the tears. Let them listen to the music with the fullest voice if possible. The best thing about giving them space is the feeling that your little one knows they can come to you when needed. You don’t have to force yourself on them. The space works as a wonder. It can convert restlessness to finally peace. So give space a trial and let it cater for you with magic.


5. Teach them self-control: Teenagers usually lash out when they don’t know how to react. Relaxation skills are required when the anger just gets out of track. The best way to handle it is through meditation. Simply just breathe in and breathe out. There are several alternatives which can also help in these situations such as taking a walk, listening to music, writing the heart out or maybe crying to get rid of all the negativity. Or simply just following your go-to relaxation corners.


Bring independence and self -esteem in them

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